I
stay in one of the University apartments located at a remote place in
the south border of the campus. A crop field spreads over a vast area
across the street. There I see a flock of birds every day making a
peculiar chirp, which are bigger than the crow in my country. I
wanted to know the name of the bird. But when I see the bird, I
couldn’t find anyone appropriate to ask and when someone was
available I couldn’t find even a single bird around.
Horses in the field |
That
day when I reached the bus stop, one girl was already there waiting
for the bus. She looked at me and smiled. Her smile was so open and
welcoming that I decided to ask her the name of the bird. “Is it
crow? I’m not sure.” She answered. It was my first meeting with
Marisa Gwidt who is a journalist, now back to school for her masters
course.
But
the other day I told her, “If I had read that article earlier, I
would not have dared to talk to you.” I was referring to an article
appeared in the Daily Illini entitled, “Stepping outside comfort zone isn’t that difficult.” Actually the
tone of the article was positive; the author Rebecca says that
sometimes it’s good to talk to someone even though it is a
stranger. But there were a few comments which bothered me, like
“parental warnings of never talk to strangers,” “talking to
strangers is creepy and doesn’t seem socially acceptable,” etc.
Then I started watching fellow passengers in bus. Yes, it’s true.
No one talks to others. And now I’m afraid even to occupy the
vacant seat if someone is already on the next seat. Because I don’t
know how they feel if a stranger, and that too a foreigner sits next
to them.
Then
Marisa asked me, “How is in your country? Do you talk?”
I
told her that we behave similarly too and I could not find any
surprise as this is quite natural everywhere. In my country, we talk
to strangers during travels only if it is necessary. I never claim
that my country is safe. Recently there was a blast in the Supreme
Court campus, a place where we expect utmost security and safety. We
need to and have to take precautions. I read similar warnings in
India and America, “Don’t touch unattended bags or boxes. If you
find it, call the police from a safe distance. Be a transit watcher.”
or “Be suspicious by default.” Then we become all the more
conscious. It is scary for anyone to read such warnings.
Then
Marisa said, “May be we think that we can control everything.”
Evidence for the freedom of speech in America. Perhaps this is
because of her journalistic mind.